Charlie’s Toolbox

The truth is living in magic is harder than living without it. You have to decide if you want to live in magic, or if you’d prefer a different method. If you prefer to live in magic, you have to dedicate yourselves to even a glimmer of magic in life. So, how do we do that? How do we train our eyes, our hearts, and our souls to accept that magic can be found anywhere at any time and in any state of being? Listen to this episode to find out!
 

Psychology Today defines self-sabotage as “Behavior that creates problems in daily life and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting.”  Many are not aware and don't know why they self-sabotage. In this episode, we discuss how to see your limiting actions and nurture them into actions that honor your highest self. 
 

The truth is…. Dating is hard, but it isn’t.
It is hard when you are holding your breath, secretly waiting to be saved, validated by a partner. It is hard when one negative or ugly comment from a prospect sends you into a spiral. It is hard when you move your boundaries because this guy is GREAT! Even though you have no real way of knowing. It is especially hard when you feel that this is your only hope for happiness. However, It is easy when you’ve worked on yourself and know that this experience is for you. When you work on yourself, you don’t give weight to an opinion outside of yourself. When you know the experience is for you, you don’t audition instead you become the panel.
 
So, how do we date to make sure that dating is easy, listen here to find out!

This episode is dedicated to women who can’t quite make peace with their mistakes. In the next few minutes, I will go through tactics on how to better understand your mistakes. I will discuss the best ways to reframe them, find the lesson, and make peace with them.
 
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30-year-old settling is subtle. Often only you know. Or your friends know, but love you too much to tell you this is not the best you can do. 30-year-old settling is not fully committing to mediocre, but sort of embracing it. Now, I understand that sometimes you just don’t have the fight in you, and good enough is well… good! But for those of you who want excellent, I have some tips to keep you going for when you just want to give up and settle.
 
For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool...
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Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl...
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
 
 
 
 
 
 

This week we discuss boundaries. I thought this was a great topic to dive into because it’s one of those topics that you have to constantly reflect on and readjust. In this episode, I will provide a couple of gentle guidelines that will help you get started with enacting strong boundaries.
For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/
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Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:
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Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
 
 
 
 
 

How do you own your life, accept it, and even go so far as to find pleasure and joy in it? In this episode, I provide tools for you to own your life. 
 
For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...
 
 
Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl...
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
 
 
 
 
 

A while ago I wrote a tweet that stated, “Girls, please be self-absorbed. I beg of you. It saves you from a lot of pain & heartbreak.” I had many women retweet, share on Instagram, and message me agreeing but asking how? In this episode, I will break down the contours of a self-centered life and by the end, you should have a full picture of what that looks like for you
 
For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...
 
 
Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl...
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
 
 
 
 
 

Fear is a powerful force. It is a response that warns or protects you from danger. Basically, its sole purpose is to help you survive. Fear is something we are supposed to have and it is extremely helpful. However, when exhausted and perverted, fear can be the very thing that stops you from enjoying life. In this episode, we will discuss methods to attack and confront fear. 
 
For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...
 
 
Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl...
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
 
 
 
 
 

This episode is for people who struggle with trusting themselves after a difficult breakup. Those folks who experience a traumatic heartbreak and decide to forego vulnerability because they suspect it is the cause of their immense pain. It is for the children of terrible caretakers, who weren't afforded the space to be vulnerable and loved unconditionally. It is hard to be vulnerable when this is your foundation. So, you have to do like you do everything else, plan for it. This episode is for the people who hate being vulnerable, don't know how to be vulnerable, and folks who are struggling with vulnerability. I teach you how to break down vulnerability so that you can trust that you will be able to do it and safely.